That’s the term everyone uses. There are campaigns around aimed at young women telling them that domestic violence is wrong and that they don’t have to put up with it.

I have an issue with this.

Not the message but with the name it’s given.

Domestic violence.

The problem is that it doesn’t start with violence. In many cases it never even escalates to violence. But there are so many kinds of abuse; so many women and girls, and men and boys, being abused day in and day out where a hand is never raised. Where nobody gets a black eye or a busted lip.

The worst case scenario of domestic abuse is that someone is killed. Beaten. Hospitalized. Raped. Maimed. Tortured.